When you meet your twin soul, the one you are inexplicably connected to, the intensive journey to wholeness within yourself begins. It is not just enough to recognise the other person, it is necessary to understand this connection. As long as you don't understand the dynamics and don't really know what all this means and aims at, you end up in a wild, powerful current, an incredibly intense process, where mainly fear reigns supreme. This is not the fear you can compare to the fear you feel when you are in immediate danger. The fear that comes to the surface in relation to that essential other is the fear of not knowing, not knowing what is happening to you, not knowing what is happening inside you, no longer feeling comfortable, thinking about the other day and night, as if you are losing yourself and you are getting in touch with a depth and turmoil inside yourself that was hitherto totally unknown territory for you. The other is always there. Who is this other? Have I met my twin soul? Why have I met this unique soul love just now? Why do I feel this way? How is this possible? How is it possible that this is so powerful? It is the fear of losing love again that touches you so deeply, without being able to explain it. Fear of rejection and not being good enough. You can't skip steps, this is all part of it. The more you allow everything you feel, the more you dare to be with what is and the more healing takes place. When the heart opens, at the same time the doors open to the layers in yourself that you didn't dare to face, because it makes you feel not good enough and you don't think you can hold your own.

The journey through those inner layers is your process and you go through this mainly alone, just as the other person is presented with their inner pieces by meeting you, even though you may not realise it. You awaken, your consciousness is expanded. Physical encounters take place from time to time to activate the next layer asking for healing. The other person will not give you what you crave and therefore you are forced to dig deep within yourself to revive and anchor the power that lies hidden there. At times everything seems to be within reach and just then that distance inexplicably follows. Distance will be introduced again and again, just as long as it takes to fully embrace yourself and provide yourself with everything you hope to get from the other. This does not happen from willpower, that is not the energy you can tap into to heal, on the contrary. You are invited to open the gates of your heart and allow the pain and everything you feel. Your body is a tremendous gauge of this. It is a journey that takes as long as it takes and at some point you feel you have let go of a lot, no sooner and no later than the right time. In fact, the process continues for as long as it takes until you reach the unimaginable point where you are no longer even afraid of physically losing the other person, simply because you know that you yourself are on your own in every way and that this life is destined for full self-expression and fulfilment. However, it is necessary that the other is also ready, but all the inner work you do is for both of you. This is because the other person then feels inwardly called to also get started and will then go through the same stages, but not necessarily at the same pace.

The pain you feel highlights the aspects in yourself that you cannot yet embrace or accept, because you have identified with people, circumstances and things that are actually outside of you. This is caused by the ego, the energy that protects us and makes sure we can stand up in this world and participate in the network of rules and social demands placed on us. The ego develops during our upbringing, because there we learnt how to act using the laws of duality, so we could survive. The ego acts from self-protection and consists of many unconscious aspects, so you automatically react defensively when your 'illusion', your views and beliefs about how this world works and how it should be, threatens to fall apart. The encounter with the person you feel this intense connection with allows these unconscious aspects to become conscious. They come to the surface and manifest as energy stagnations within the interaction between the two of you..... These are the aspects that are responsible for attraction and repulsion, and they are quite challenging. Welcome this phase, however painful it may be, for this is when the journey begins through which you release everything that mainly subconsciously controls you, so that you truly come face to face with yourself. Then love for yourself is also born, gradually daring the ego to hand over the sceptre to the wisdom of the heart. It is only from a deep heart connection that you create harmony in yourself, but also with this world.

Resistance is an automatic consequence of this invitation. The journey from your head to your heart is a very dynamic, powerful and intense process. It is certainly not painless or easy, because the intention is simply to liberate your deep capacity for love and thus manifest a new relationship with yourself and the world It is difficult to leave your comfort zone, you tend to cling to what you know and identify with, because otherwise you no longer have a foothold and you no longer know where you are and what the meaning of everything is. Much of what you have been taught no longer works. Your beliefs and belief systems can no longer define this world, you feel confused, lost, chaos reigns within you and you don't know where it will lead, because the very essential other gives you no guarantees...... it feels like your whole world is collapsing. And somewhere it does. The old layers and perceptions that served are replaced by a wider dimension in which you can navigate solely on the wisdom of your heart and the whispers of your soul. This energy does not consist of certainties, but works on the basis of an unwavering trust that life provides you with everything you need, without you having to control it. You learn to listen to that inner voice purged of old fears, traumas and wounds. So you find yourself in a rigorous phase of change through which you become more and more yourself and embody more and more your truth.

The biggest obstacle in this journey within is our mind that gives us the illusion of separateness when we are not physically together, because on top of your individual fears, the fear of losing the other prevails. You feel the fear evoked by the thought that it might be for another life, and cannot come to fruition now. This is an important part of your growth and you will be amazed at the one you are in the making, the one who accepts the universal laws and surrenders to what is allowed to be in each moment, without filling in or controlling what you think should be. Accepting that you know nothing and at the same time actually know everything you need to know.

Your inner channels are cleared, gradually allowing the flow of life meant for you to flow unimpeded. The flow of these channels propels any blockage, any stagnation to the surface. By allowing everything you feel, you learn to navigate on the signals given to you by your heart, your intuition, your soul. Two worlds become one and within that other dimension, the energetic world, unity is already a fact. This oneness will further descend to earthly reality when our individual stories are played out. In doing so, let go of the concept of time as much as possible and use the stage of your life in the meantime to share the love you embody with those around you or even wider than that. Put your love at the service of your fellow man.

Eventually, you will realise that the trick is to let the other person be completely free in their actions, to let go of control over their decisions and choices as well as the need to be with them. This is an important part of the process and is a point that you will reach at your pace, not out of willpower or self-protection, but simply because this power is released at some point when you have felt what needed to be felt. The growth you go through is tremendous. Do not doubt. Don't take the other person's actions and choices personally and don't fill anything in, don't draw conclusions, because incredible twists and shifts will happen here. You will experience things that you could not have thought of yourself, so try to be as open as possible to everything that is handed to you. The process generates such tremendous personal growth that you will eventually have complete trust in the other person, knowing that the choices they make are always for a higher purpose, even if those choices don't resonate with you, even if your senses lead you to believe otherwise... The universe knows what it's doing and what it takes to embody that wholeness and selfhood.

The distance between you is a necessary event and gives you space to realise that in the end you really are 1, when you can see beyond the layers that you and the other person identify with. In that phase, you integrate aspects of yourself that were previously covered up. Physical distance is not synonymous with the end of your love, quite the contrary. This phase supports your journey where you switch from your mind to your heart as the primary guide in your life. Both aspects of yourself gradually come into balanced cooperation. A too early coming together with your essential other, would only result in the continuous reflection of your own emptiness and so that is what happens during the moments of coming together. The first moment of contact after a phase of physical distance, is the most open moment. You can use that moment to express yourself, to give expression to what is on your heart. You can say whatever is necessary, because you don't have to be afraid of scaring the other person away. The dynamic of making the unconscious patterns conscious is active, so just when that intense love flows in so overwhelmingly over and over again, one of the two will again feel the need to protect themselves and put the distance back in. A necessary thing, because as mentioned, that's when purification and healing takes place and both partners grow towards wholeness and oneness. It is precisely then that so much progress takes place.

The purpose of the connection is to allow your true self, so you cannot help but repel each other regularly at first because of the identification patterns you individually maintain that really stand between you. And in doing so, I cannot stress to you enough that you don't have to go on hold. Focus on yourself, on developing your own unique talents and gifts and bring them into expression. The connection releases a tremendous creative energy. Inspire the world with your unique being and let your essential other have his own experiences in the meantime. You don't have to control anything, you don't have to follow anything and you don't have to draw conclusions that are detrimental to you. You know what you need to know. You are worth connecting with who you are as much as possible! And everything you clear within yourself no longer needs to be reflected by others. Any introspection benefits this connection.

An important part of the connection consists of releasing that divine love so that it can manifest itself in an earthly form. For this, the perceptions of love itself, especially the views regarding romantic love, need to be purified, because this love transcends everything and does not consist of lean and support energies, the connection is not based on the energy of dependencies or needing each other. This love benefits the entire universe and is not just for personal purposes. By being yourself, you embody the divine expression of who you are and inspire those around you to also be their best. In doing so, you support the anchoring of love in this society and support the shift from an outdated paradigm to a world where the heart plays an important role krows.

© Maria Quesada