It is a matter of time, a matter of living through it, before love can make its entry unbounded.

Circumstances that make a deep impression on you as only love can, or indeed the lack of love, eventually cause you to become humble to life, because you realise that resistance and defiance are futile. What would you need to protect yourself from? After all, life unfolds in a way that brings out the best in you, even if circumstances sometimes make you sad or angry and you feel the need to retreat, because you have become so stagnant because of what you had not seen coming, but happened anyway! What we want and what is truly meant for us, because it represents the highest possible potential, can be vastly removed from each other until we remember who we are which allows the protective mechanisms we have had to employ to disappear. Ultimately, surrender to who you originally are follows, which is what life is all about. And then you may stop wondering why painful things happen, they happen because unconscious patterns are active.

Especially in situations where you think you have given your best, it can happen that you have the feeling of not being seen or being pushed away, precisely by those you care about or even love intensely for no demonstrable reason. Then there is always fear involved. Fear of losing control, fear of losing face, fear of shame, guilt! And the more you are in connection with yourself so that your power is palpable or visible as a natural given, the more intensely that fear can play out in the other person. Thus an unconscious pattern that is of great influence is activated, without the other person deeply wanting it. However, it happens and should happen, because in this way healing sets in.

So it may be that, out of the blue and without understanding it, you are enveloped in the shadow of another person's inability to feel their own vulnerability and the parts that have been suppressed for so long and are now coming to the surface to be healed, but don't have to face it. The other is in pain, and you feel that pain, because it is difficult to distinguish what belongs to whom, when love is the binding factor. But anything that is an obstacle to love, a barrier against the free flow that it takes to express and share this love, will still flare up despite frantic efforts to resist it to the point of being able to turn inwards and face the issue that is so painful. There is loving guidance for everyone, it settles within the pace that is in tune with each person's capabilities.

The more you can stay in the place where you no longer ask yourself, "Is it my fault, is it your fault?", consciously or unconsciously, the more you can come to acceptance that these things are happening, because there is some kind of healing going on and if you can see that, then you don't have to take it personally and you can come to surrender and maybe even forgiveness, as far as applicable. However, we remain human and unjust situations evoke indignation, anger and sadness. You do not have to deny this in yourself either, but know that it is precisely these emotions that expose the wound that may be further healed.

Let it unfold, look no more for the truth. Things happen guided from a cosmic intelligence that we cannot oversee. I have learnt to accept things as they are, the need to be able to explain it all I have left behind, because sometimes you can really short-circuit without the answer presenting itself... and that already feels a little calmer, because I have full confidence that what I need to know will show itself to me at the right time and I have experienced that any imbalance also balances itself at the right time through surrender to life. We are not alone, everything is taken care of!